To those looking for these courses. I don’t have the videos but allow me to distill some things down to hopefully help you.
Never underestimate the value of being in an environment and not making someone uncomfortable. It’s okay if you’re quiet or usually spend time in your own head as long as you don’t make a girl feel you’re only there to pull her.
Ask questions about her life and try to be engaged by what you’re being told, if you honestly aren’t interested or don’t care then save everyone the trouble and let her move on politely.
The real secrets of being good to be around are listening without trying to figure out what you can say next and letting someone else finish what they are thinking, most people like to talk about themselves a little and when she finishes you will get time to do the same.
Finally, look for context clues, if her eyes are glazing over or she’s looking around while you’re talking, then she either feels unable to engage or just want the interaction to end, let the conversation reach a rest point and see if she has something to say, otherwise let them move on and save yourselves the time.
Finally and I did touch on this before, approach social situations with the right mind set, don’t go in thinking you’re the lone shark hunting or the tortured artist who will be saved, or other such things, these are tropes that work in media but in real life, just go in looking for a connection while being honest about whether it’s happening in real time. again, if girls feel like you’re only talking to them to pull them and you have no actual interest in them then we know.
